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#RightToEqualPleasure: 6 things you shouldn’t ignore to hit the big O

Girl, claim your right to equal pleasure and improve your sex life. A sexual health expert tells you how to get closer to an orgasm.
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Reaching an orgasm mostly takes two to tango! Image courtesy: Shutterstock
Shalini Pandey Published: 27 Jul 2022, 18:35 pm IST
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The monsoon season spells romance. The soothing sight and sound of raindrops push you into a romantic frame of mind. Hugging, kissing, cuddling and nibbling… it’s the perfect season to get up, close and personal with your loved one. Romantic gestures can build up the momentum to great sex, but can it guarantee an orgasm? Oops, let’s get some tips right here!

Being in love can be blissful, and reaching an orgasm takes exhilaration to the next level. According to various studies, a better sex life not only has a positive impact on your personal life, but also establishes you as a better performer in every aspect of life. It is reason enough to work your way towards improving your sex life and know how to reach an orgasm. Know the benefits of orgasm right here.

It is important to be involved with all your heart

Sex is both – your physical and emotional need. In such a situation, it becomes very important that it should not be included in your life as a routine to-do activity. You should be fully interested and invested. For this, your first and foremost need must be to take care of your desires equally as your partner. We’re all for the right to equal pleasure!

Women often ignore their own needs, happiness and pleasure. This is the reason why fake orgasm is still a topic of discussion. Well, why should we fake it when we can make it? Stop ignoring your need for pleasure.

When a woman starts taking care of the partner more than her need, somewhere, she begins to leave her happiness behind.

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Communication is important! Image courtesy: Shutterstock

Give importance to yourself too

Online sex coach Ananya Patekar says, “It is important that you take a good care of the needs of both, you and your partner. Also, stop presenting yourself as if you have no role in the process, especially when you are in your bedroom.”

This is the year 2022. You are known all over the world as a woman aware of her needs and wants. Understand that finding your own happiness is just as important as it is for your partner. After all, an orgasm gap is for real!

So first of all, get rid of the thought of making your partner, and only your partner, happy and satisfied. Your orgasm matters as much as your partner’s.

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The sex coach also doles out some tips to make your sex life better.

She says, “Being kinky, moving your hands, positioning your body and creating an atmosphere for both of you will take away your hesitation.”

Offering a ‘role play tip’, which she calls a “wild seduction”, she adds, “Lie down on the bed and touch yourself. Look at your partner but don’t touch him. This is an appealing and easy way to show yourself and signal your partner to come closer.”

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Ensure there’s a little surprise element to turn up the heat. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

Tips to improve your sex life and hit an orgasm:

1 Change

Varying your sex location adds excitement and spice up your healthy sex. Keep it exciting by discovering new places to engage with each other. You may give a try to the kitchen table, laundry room, in the car or even outside. Having sex in new areas gives more fun and creative opportunities for role play, which will bring back the spark to your boring sex life.

2 Kissing

As per Patekar, “During sex, due to the excitement and comfort of the positioning, sometimes you lose a chance to kiss your partner. But it is important to kiss, especially those places of your partner’s body which are left untouched and deprived of the affectionate feeling. These touches create excitement.”

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Don’t forget to kiss. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

3. Sense of humour

Your sense of humour can remove every stress from your life. The same thing applies to sex as well. Light-hearted pranks during sex make both of you comfortable for each other and you can get closer to each other in a better way.

4. Remember you’re a partner, not a lifeless robot

Research says, men generally like to have relationships with women who enjoy sex equally. Active participation means to put your efforts into achieving orgasm. Flexing your hips and hamstrings (muscles that run from your thigh bone to your spine), and responding to your partner’s action with your own action also shows your interest in sex. Remember ladies, you are not a sex toy, and that your reactions matter if you’re trying to improve your sex life.

5. Sex talk

You and your partner should express your desires to each other. Tell your partner exactly how you want their touch. Interaction facilitates you to reach your orgasm journey. Kinky talks will make both of you comfortable about sex. Communication, ladies, is the key!

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Sometimes, talking dirty helps! Image courtesy: Shutterstock

6. Get on the same level

Some couples enjoy having harsh sex, but it’s wise to talk to your partner before any such experiments. If you start behaving harshly with your partner without knowing whether they like it or not, it will probably hurt your partner instead of being a way to improve your sex life.

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